We all have dreams and desires, goals and aspirations that we hope one day we will achieve in life. Our wants can range from starting a new job or career, to losing weight, improving the quality of a relationship, starting a family, getting out of debt, or developing our spirituality or overcoming harmful behaviors. Thinking about and articulating what we want out of life will mean that we are going to have to make some changes in order to reach our goals. Yet coping with change isn't always something we easily adapt to, despite the fact that change is a normal part of life and will keep occurring whether we want it to or not. So, even if you don't want to change anything about your life, and are working to keep it secure and predictable, change is one of those things that will be as certain as death and taxes! It will happen! So, whether you are instigating new changes or have become an unwilling participant of change, the following points will help guide you through. Change is Uncomfortable Accept the fact that change, no matter how large or small brings discomfort, once you accept it you will understand that the discomfort is a normal part of the process of change. When we don't understand it we will view discomfort as something to be avoided and we may be tempted to run back to what feels safe and secure (even if it is harmful!) Half Full or Half Empty? What is great about this change? You might have difficulty seeing the blessings right now but one day you will look back and see an enormous amount of growth and change in you. Don't let change make you bitter and stuck in the past. Life is forever moving forward and encouraging you to ride with it! Learn to be Flexible The more rigid we are, the greater the stress we will experience when change comes. Learn to relax, go with the flow and look for the lessons that life is teaching you at this time. Face Your Losses Change will bring loss; so don't be surprised if you feel like you are in mourning. It's good to grieve, so allow yourself to go through the process of grieving what is being left behind. Find Support Find a good supportive network and speak about your feelings, don't keep it all bottled up inside. It is especially helpful to meet with others who have been through the same changes as they can offer tips and advice on what to do and identify with how you feel. Instigating Change? How do you eat an elephant? That's right, one bite at a time! Break down what it is you need to do into small achievable goals, too much too soon and you will become overwhelmed and distraught with what needs to happen. Take Our Test Take the "Are You Ready For Change Assessment" to see if you are in the right place for change. |
